How Much Happier Would you Feel if Communicating your Needs Felt Easy?
How much happier, supported, and appreciated would you feel if communicating your needs felt easy?
I totally get it. A short time ago, I used to struggle with the belief “I can’t say no because I don’t want to let anyone down” or “I don’t want that person to be disappointed or mad at me.”
I thought that if I told them “no,” I would:
Be seen as selfish
Be rejected by people I wanted to be liked by
Be seen as incapable or lazy
And I assumed they’d feel disappointed or angry. So, of course, I avoided setting boundaries! 🤦🏻♀️
I did what everyone else wanted because I didn’t want to feel any of these uncomfortable emotions.😩
But these beliefs caused me to constantly overextend myself, say “yes” to things I didn’t have time or energy for, and ultimately ignore my own wellbeing because being liked and accepted felt more important than honoring my needs. As you can imagine, this led to feelings of resentment.
Here’s the truth: You deserve to have your needs heard and respected AND learning to communicate them clearly is the first step toward feeling happier, supported and more appreciated.
I started using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) regularly to help me calm my nervous system and process the stressful emotions and fears I felt around setting boundaries, and something surprising happened:
I strengthened my relationships by teaching people how I wanted to be treated.
I reclaimed my mental energy and wellbeing by deciding how to spend my time and who to spend it with.
I boosted my confidence and developed a deeper sense of self-love and self-worth.
And you know what else? I stopped feeling the need to over-explain myself. I just said “no”. The pressure of worrying about others’ opinions lifted, and I realized that the most important relationship was the one I had with myself.
All of a sudden, communicating my needs and reinforcing my boundaries didn’t feel icky—it felt EASY and EFFORTLESS.
The MOST surprising part? I got myself off the burnout train for GOOD by addressing the root of why I was burnt out in the first place—those limiting beliefs and lack of boundaries.
If this resonates with you and you’re struggling with these same challenges that you want to work through, book a session so we can get you feeling confident saying no!
